Paul's Story

On May 9, 1980, in Ottawa, Ontario, our family was complete. It was on this day that we introduced Paul James Kennedy to his sister Michelle and his brother Mark - soon to become the best of friends.

In his toddler years, it was quite evident that Paul was already on a mission. There was going to be nothing that his older sister and brother could do that he wouldn’t attempt as well. No way was Paul going to be left behind.

As a young boy, he showed an interest in many sports, and could readily follow the play of a baseball game at the age of three. As he grew up, Paul’s love for sports was evident in the way he played hockey, baseball, volleyball and golf. Volleyball and hockey became his special passions, and allowed him to develop both team-playing and leadership skills. As well, he was an avid and loyal fan of the SENS!!!

"Paul was a special and unique person. I looked up to him. Even though he was two years younger than me, I looked up to him. He had it all put together. He embodied everything that one would look for in a friend. He had great courage.”*

Academically, Paul had a successful career which saw him graduate from St. Pius X High School with honours, and complete his undergraduate degree in criminology at the University of Ottawa in the spring of 2002. This set the stage for a career in policing; he was well on his way to this goal when his life suddenly ended on October 22, 2002.

Paul possessed a strong sense of family. He was never too busy for anyone and always available when needed. We were often entertained by his droll sense of humour, and at times, the beneficiaries of his fine mediation skills! Our most precious memories with Paul would certainly be when we gathered to celebrate a birthday, St. Patrick’s Day, Christmas, Winterlude, Canada Day or just a simple dinner at the Kennedy household. Paul was polite, caring and generous with a keen sense of humour and a real joy for life. His contagious laugh echoed throughout the house. Although Paul was the youngest, we often found ourselves looking up to him. Age did not matter, as Paul was mature far beyond his years. Paul had a great relationship with all, including his many cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents.

"Paul was a survivor and always persevered. He was a noble man and I am glad to have known him. I feel I am at a major loss knowing that I will never be graced by his presence again. He was a great man who was only growing greater." *

With his easy speaking manner, he was an excellent communicator, and when the situation called for it, he would speak up for what he thought was right. He was a wonderful young man who brightened any gathering with his unassuming ways and fun-loving personality.

Beyond his academics, sports and a busy life at work, Paul found time to help others, whether it was a friend in need, or those less fortunate than himself. He never grew tired of giving to the community he loved so much. Not only did he coach in the Nepean Minor Hockey Association (the game he loved), he also helped coach the girls’ volleyball team at his high school, St Pius X and found time to help the homeless weekly, by volunteering at the Shepherds of Good Hope. Every Sunday for a few hours, Paul would help serve meals to the less fortunate. He not only served food but was also able to bring a smile to the faces of those who came by often with a joke or a simple hello.

"Paul demonstrated integrity and responsibility in the quality of his work and in his contact with people at all levels. We cherish his memory. His spirit will continue to challenge and inspire us." *

Paul’s contribution to others has not ended. Through organ and tissue donation, he has given "The Gift of Life" which has enhanced or saved the lives of eight other people. This is a cause which he supported when he was alive. Paul’s short life (22 years), which he lived to the fullest, should not be measured by his age alone, but by the many people he touched in life and continues to touch in death. He showed a level of compassion, altruism and integrity that was beyond his years. His legacy is truly an inspiration to all.

To know Paul was to love him.

* Excerpts of letters written by Paul's friends.